Thursday, April 19, 2007

Courteous

1 : marked by polished manners, gallantry, or ceremonial usage of a court
2 : marked by respect for and consideration of others

Charming people focus on the other person. Rarely are they themselves the topic of discussion. Be nice to others. If someone is excited or wants to discuss a subject that you have no interest in or have a negative interest in; say nothing. (Granted this would be in relation to entertainment issues, not debating/argument issues.)

In most cases, arguments are meant to be persuasive. Take a moment to think about that. How persuasive is an argument that automatically makes the other person wrong? Are they going to be receptive to your point of view? What are you really trying to accomplish by directly challenging another person?

Avoid talking down to people. If you're never wrong, you're always wrong. You have to give ground occasionally or risk losing the respect of people you're arguing with.

I think someone needs to look up being courteous again. They're a little confused.

23 comments:

Swami said...

*blank look*

But, if I'm tall and you're short how else can I talk to you?

Breezy said...

*giggle*

Silly Swami.

Anonymous said...

I can think of a few other words to look up along with courteous, hypocracy and irony are the first two that come to mind.

Breezy said...

LOL I'm sure there are even more that could be done.

Glowie said...

But... but Sanjaya can sing.

*curtsies*

Am I missing something irritating again?

HistoryDetective said...

It's Friday. Here's a cucumber margarita. Enjoy.

Breezy said...

LMAO Thanks HD!

mm said...

You know, after thinking about all this, I'm beginning to wonder if we should back off. Once I set aside my annoyances, I really am just filled with pity for her.

*shrug*

~Nutz said...

*once again feels completely out of the loop*

*sigh*

*sits back and drinks a cucumber... um, make that a strawberry margarita*

kim (weltek) said...

I miss out on everything!

kim (weltek) said...

Oooh, found it. It was kind of like watching Elimidate, only with more intelligent conversation.

yvonne said...

I have a few more words, but I think I'll keep them to myself in case Switzerland shows up.

*snort*

Breezy said...

*snort*

HistoryDetective said...

I'm just going to have another cucumber margarita because I don't know Switzerland.

yvonne said...

Trust me HD, you do know Switzerland.

Breezy said...

Yep you do.

HD!!!! I found a couple of recipes online, but since you've had one. Which kind have you had? On the rocks or blended one?

HistoryDetective said...

On the rocks, with great big chunks of cucumber floating in the glass. They are yummy to eat when the rest of the drink is gone. I will take a photo next time I eat at Holy Frijoles.

Bravie said...

Pity is the perfect word, MM.

Puffy said...

*puzzled look*

Bravie said...

You're so cute when you get like this. *giggle*

The Zombieslayer said...

Well said. Courtesy goes a long way. In an argument and others are present, if the other person is being rude and you're being courteous, from experience, the other people will respect you better, regardless of what you're arguing about.

Zombs said...

*remembers to be extra courteous to above poster*

HistoryDetective said...

Uh oh, do you think he went after Bigfoot already?!